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Coaching Leadership

Punishing the messenger

Despite our best intentions to not shoot the messenger, more often than not, we end up doing just that. It happens all the time with all of us. Of course, we know the messenger is only trying to help or pass on information, insights, or suggestions from their perspective. And yet we blow them up! […]

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Playing favorites

A lot of sucking up goes in an organization than most leaders would like to admit. And while most of them can’t see in themselves what they see in others, more often than not, the very same people send subtle (sometimes strong and obvious) signals to their subordinates. About what? To not criticize or share […]

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Business Coaching Leadership Personal growth

Being consistent isn’t the only thing that matters

Lately, One of the recurring themes in my coaching sessions is “consistency.” I’m not doing an excellent job with that. Particularly concerning the big goals I’ve set for myself. They’re not in alignment with the time that I can spend. Yet, I try and fail.  The result, as you can imagine, is an archive of […]

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Coaching Leadership

The 20 unrecognizable leadership habits

The following are transactional communication patterns (flaws) that we humans often let become unnoticeable habits (to us) that create challenges and roadblocks in our interactions with others. I compiled this list below from Marshall Goldsmith’s book “What got you here won’t get you there.”  Personally, it’s an essential list because I use it while onboarding […]

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Coaching Leadership

An excessive need to be β€œme”

Be honest β€” how many times have you screwed things up or annoyed everyone around by thinking out loud, “that’s just the way I am!”? If the answer is “all the time, Sunil,” you and I know that we have a problem, don’t we? Our faults, despite our conviction or our best efforts to rationalize, […]

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Business Coaching Leadership

Better engagement with the team

While employee engagement is all the rage (and for the right reasons) these days, leaders need to realize that a large part often depends on how they show up as humans at the workplace. I found these simple and timeless insights on how to engage with your employees better. I’ve been trying these for years […]

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Coaching Leadership

Telling the world how smart you are

I’ve had the privilege of meeting leaders who consider themselves smart, ambitious, successful, experienced, motivated, or any other adjective spend an inordinate chunk of time positioning themselves above the people they work with. If that’s you, let me tell you β€” it is damn annoying! Of course, all that positioning might not be apparent, but […]

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Business Coaching Leadership

Speaking when angry

Using your emotional volatility as a management tool is a bad strategy. Yet we know of managers and leaders who do precisely that; surprisingly, to some degree of success. It sure does get people’s attention. But if throwing temper tantrums is their tool for exacting change, I wonder what they have to say about the […]

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Coaching Leadership

Adding too much value

A classic problem that almost every successful and competent leader has is this overwhelming desire to add their two cents to every discussion. And I mean every-single-discussion. It’s damn irritating. I know because I used to be one of them. The challenge with accomplished leaders (and you will see a lot of this among military […]

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Business Coaching Leadership

Making destructive comments

Destructive comments are the cutting, sarcastic comments we let fly with or without intention. They serve no other purpose than to put people down, hurt them, or assert themselves as “superior.” They are different from comments that add too much value. This type of comment adds nothing but pain. Are you making destructive comments? It’s […]