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Coaching Leadership

Punishing the messenger

Despite our best intentions to not shoot the messenger, more often than not, we end up doing just that. It happens all the time with all of us. Of course, we know the messenger is only trying to help or pass on information, insights, or suggestions from their perspective. And yet we blow them up! […]

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Coaching Leadership

Playing favorites

A lot of sucking up goes in an organization than most leaders would like to admit. And while most of them can’t see in themselves what they see in others, more often than not, the very same people send subtle (sometimes strong and obvious) signals to their subordinates. About what? To not criticize or share […]

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Business Human Resources Leadership

Clinging to the past

If you think blaming ourselves or others is terrible, let me assure you that deflecting blame onto events and people from the past is just as bad. I’m a highly context-driven person, so history is essential to my day-to-day and future decisions. The trait also allows me to think and reflect deeper.  However, as a […]

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Coaching Leadership

An excessive need to be “me”

Be honest — how many times have you screwed things up or annoyed everyone around by thinking out loud, “that’s just the way I am!”? If the answer is “all the time, Sunil,” you and I know that we have a problem, don’t we? Our faults, despite our conviction or our best efforts to rationalize, […]

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Business Coaching Leadership

Better engagement with the team

While employee engagement is all the rage (and for the right reasons) these days, leaders need to realize that a large part often depends on how they show up as humans at the workplace. I found these simple and timeless insights on how to engage with your employees better. I’ve been trying these for years […]

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Coaching Leadership

Telling the world how smart you are

I’ve had the privilege of meeting leaders who consider themselves smart, ambitious, successful, experienced, motivated, or any other adjective spend an inordinate chunk of time positioning themselves above the people they work with. If that’s you, let me tell you — it is damn annoying! Of course, all that positioning might not be apparent, but […]

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Coaching Leadership

Passing Judgement

It’s easy for leaders to fall into the trap of rating others and imposing their standards on others. What starts with some helpful ‘opinions’ usually morphs into targeted judgment. Don’t believe me? Well, have you ever expressed approval or disapproval about something or someone? If the answer’s yes, that’s judgment, my friend. It’s much different […]

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Business Coaching Leadership

Refusing to express regret

Regardless of who and where you are as a leader, refusing to admit that we’re wrong or take responsibility for our actions is one of the most destructive interpersonal flaws. And that because for most people expressing regret or apologising is a painstakingly tricky experience. Why? Because they think it’s akin to losing a contest. […]

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Business Coaching Leadership Personal growth

The two types of critics

It’s ironic how most people in the modern world are convinced that criticism will bring the best out of us, given that there was a time when criticism would draw out the swords and guns! I guess those were simpler times.  I think people confuse criticism with feedback. And since we’ve been sold into thinking […]

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Business Coaching Leadership

On Leading People

Leading and managing people are two different things. I don’t think people, as individuals, can be managed. Not at least literally, but they sure can be led. That said, leading or managing people requires a certain level of skillet and competency that one must be aware of before stepping into the role. Note that the […]